Warning: The “F” word lies ahead.
Decluttering is all the rage these days, whether it’s minimalists challenging people to live with a 10-item wardrobe or devotees of Marie Kondo’s bestseller The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up purging items that don’t serve a function or bring them joy.
Indeed, there are a lot of things in our lives that we can live without. But Sarah Knight, author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don’t Have with People You Don’t Like Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do, thinks we should do more than declutter our homes. Her no-holds-barred philosophy of ruthless purging applies to everything in our lives: objects, relationships, and negative thoughts that get in our way.
Her book is part self-help, part parody of Kondo’s book, but most of all, it is a reflection on what really matters in life. As she explains in her book:
I’ve developed a program for decluttering and reorganizing your mental space by not giving a fuck, wherein not giving a fuck means not spending time, energy, and/or money on things that neither make you happy nor improve your life (annoy), so that you have more time, energy, and/or money to devote to the things that do (bring joy).
She calls her philosophy the NotSorry Method, and she encourages readers to look at everything in life through a simple lense: Do I or do I not give a fuck about this? It’s basically the more aggressive, more modern version of trying to get us all not to sweat the small stuff.
Of course, life is not always black or white. Not giving a fuck sounds great in theory, but it’s not always simple in practice. How do you decide what is, in fact, worth your time? How do you decide what to keep and what to get the hell away from? To help us make the tough choices, Knight has created this handy flowchart.
While at first glance it may seem like a cheeky piece, it is surprisingly helpful. If you answer the questions honestly, it really can help give you perspective on the things that bother you most.
We say “F yeah!” to that.
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